Love demystified

"Fill your life with love. But you will say, "We always love." And I tell you, you rarely love. You might be longing for love…and there is a vast difference between the two. To love and to need love are two very different things. Most of us remain like children all our lives because everyone is looking for love. To love is a very mysterious thing; to long for love is a very childish thing. Small children want love; when the mother gives them love they grow. They want love from others also and the family loves them. Then when they grow older, if they are husbands they want love from their wives, if they are wives they want love from their husbands.

And whoever wants love suffers because love cannot be asked for, love can only be given. In wanting there is no certainty that you will get it. And if the person from whom you expect love also expects love from you, it is a problem. It will be like two beggars meeting and begging together. All over the world there are marital problems between husbands and wives, and the only reason for this is that both expect love from each other but are unable to give love.Think about this a little – your constant need for love. You want someone to love you, and if someone loves you you feel good. But what you don't know is that the other loves you only because he wants you to love him. It is just like someone throwing bait to fish: he does not throw it for the fish to eat, he throws it to catch the fish. He does not want to give it to the fish, he only does it because he wants the fish. All the people that you see in love around you are only throwing bait to get love. They will throw the bait for a while, until the other person starts feeling that there is a possibility of getting love from this person. Then he too will start showing some love until eventually they realize that both of them are beggars. They have made a mistake: each had thought the other was an emperor. And in time each one realizes that he is not getting any love from the other, and that's when the friction starts."
-OSHO

I read this awesome quote at a site and it intrigued me.So may be thats what love is.Here are my $0.02.

May be its not something you can have but only something you can give. But then why will anyone love anyone and not expect it in return.May be its just an illusion of the wanting someone to be with you through the ups and downs of life. Just an illusion. Or may be its just chemicals like dopamine and norepinephrine (no no i didnt become some expert on chemistry leaving my beloved computer science aside if thats what you thought) playing havoc with our brain,forcing us to behave differently.Or may be its an imaginary feeling that directors and producers use to make money.

For me love is the strongest ,the poorest and the most beautiful of all human emotions. Strongest because i dont think any emotion can overpower it.Poorest because it makes you feel dodgy in your knees.It makes you weak. Suddenly you have something to lose.As a famous dialogue of the movie Fight club goes "It's only when you lose evrything that you are free to do anything" , that feeling of losing something makes everyone inhibited , weak and just not themselves. Another quote from another movie "Love is your biggest enemy. It weakens you. Puts doubts in your mind. Suddenly you have something to lose."

 But then isnt it one of the most beautiful feelings in the world??to be loved by someone.Its the only time in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.

Whatever love is you cant live with it and sure as hell cant live without it.I am confused and i feel its okay to feel that way once in a while specially on such a complex issue.Love may weigh you down but i believe it can lift you up too.

A long long post.I dont think anyone will read it completely but then if you do.Please comment and tell me if you liked it. Hasta la vista!!